Navigating Transition: What to Do in the Waiting

Thursday, March 17th, 2016

home and fushia flowersWe are in another transition. Our home is on the market, we are downsizing, and moving our ministry headquarters nearer Bill’s aging parents. His parents need someone in the family closer, much more often, and we know it is our time to give back to the couple who gave Bill life. But our home hasn’t sold . . .yet. . . so we feel like we are in spiritual limbo. Like a plane circling an airport to land, we keep doing what we know will keep our life safely flying until we are cleared for landing.

Thinking back, we have been in transition many times before: before we married, before God called us to go to seminary, waiting to see if we would receive our first ministry calling, waiting for the results of a pregnancy test (three times), waiting to see which would be our first home, waiting to see what church would be Bill’s first pastorate, waiting to see if any publisher would want to print our book(s) . . .waiting, more and more waiting. In 10 Best 10 Best CoupleDecisions a Couple Can Make, we walk couples through many life typical transitions.

In a more tender moment, at a time of life and death of our youngest son, God enlightened us on what to do while waiting:    

I [Pam] was sitting in a hospital room—my son in ICU—with my husband who had just ended a job he loved. I was asked to endorse a book, Gracepoints by Jane Rubietta, and God sent His hope in the middle of the pain of my changing world through Jane’s book as I read: “God is working just beyond the headlights of your life. . . .”

Here are a few other things I have learned about navigating change:

brave book courage mugIn my messages on Becoming A Brave New Woman: Step into God’s Adventure for Your Life, I encourage women to follow the example of Naomi in the book of Ruth, who, when her husband and sons died, went back to the last place that she knew she had heard from God, her homeland. If you are feeling lost, go back to familiar people and places, and the promises from God’s Word.





Look at nature, the consistent roll of the waves—tide in, tide out; or the sun that rises and sets each day. God is in control. Psalm 50: 6 reminds us, “The heavens proclaim his righteousness.” Observe the certain in nature and rely on that same reliable control of God in your own life. God is in control even if you can’t see or feel it, so observe it with a sunrise or a moonrise today to remind yourself of His power to provide.

In 7 Simple Skills for Every Woman, I share  the obvious “Do the Next right thing” principle: Do what is healthy while you are waiting and wondering. Cleansimple known to unknown gods will b and p both  house, get dressed, visit friends, and continue in ministry, even if it is just helping the next person who God brings across your path. Proverbs 31:13 gives an example of a woman who “works with eager hands.” If you don’t have answers, research and step out to call, write, or visit people who created the information. Function on the thread of information you do know, and it will likely lead to a person or resource with more information.

Remember God’s faithfulness in your own life. Log away the faithfulness of God in a scrapbook, a photo album, and in your heart—like the Psalmist who lists twenty-five faithful victories of God in Psalm 136 and ends each accomplishment with the praise, “For His love endures forever.”

Send Up a Simple Prayer: Lord, when I am navigating change, help me focus on You, the CREATOR, not my circumstances. Be the compass needle of my life. Create light to lead me t my “next right thing”. Amen.

Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change, and though the mountains slip into the heart of the sea. (Psalm 46:2)



Move Yourself Thin

Thursday, February 28th, 2013



Day 4: Have you ever observed thin people? Many of them just can’t seem to sit still! Did you know even figetting burns calories?

I wear a pedometer and each day I aim at taking 10,000 steps (or walking about 4 miles). In total, at an “I’m late, I need to get someplace” pace this translates into a little over an hour of walking.   But we can get this same kind of benefit from all kinds of movement. Two of my favorites forms of exercise are Body & Soul & Praise Moves  . These provide the extra blessing of movement to Christian music. Praise Moves is a Christian alternative to yoga and replaces any and all Eastern religious influence with scripture and renaming poses with Biblical worship titles. (Below is a photo of me with one of my favorite Body and Soul instructors at Sandy Cove conference Center. They do a “moving minute” before each teaching session–keeps audience awake and is a great intoduction to the fun of Body and Soul workouts).

Since I know that 1 Cor. makes it clear that our body is a “temple of the Holy Spirit”, I want to “Glorify God with my bod.”  One of the mottos I go by is “Something is better than nothing”, so on the busy days, if you embrace this, then you might keep a pair of tennies at your desk or in your car for a quick walk while you wait for the kids’, or I keep video workouts on my computer for when I travel and the hotel might not have a workout room. Your TV likely has some exercise stations on cable, or go to Youtube and sample a workout plan you are considering. I asked for a wii as a gift from my family and I enjoy dancing with my grandkids or doing “wii sports” when the family is over.

Look for ways to PLAY: Put up a basketball hoop in the driveway, try a peice of new fitness equipment, make use of the free gym membership specials most gyms offer on an ongoing basis. Try a variety of activities. This causes muscle confusement which helps break weight loss platues, but for me, it also keeps me interested and not bored doing the same thing day in and day out.

In 10 Secrets to Living Smart, Savvy and Strong, I have a four quadrant chart which shows the balance of the types of exercise you should include each week.


Take a look at your average week. How balanced are you? Are you just focusing on cardio, then you are missing out on the extra calories that weight bearing exercise gives even AFTER your workout. Are you skipping flexibility and balance, then you risk falls as you age.

Use the chart above and plan your week so that you are gaining strength in all four areas. I also try to mix up my exercise with some individual workouts and some classes each week. I find my competitive nature works a little harder in a class!This is also why I take a group of women kayaking for a week each May- ask me about that! ( Many women love the bonding and encouragment of exercising together.

Observe how you work, while watching CBN’s 700 club, I learned that sitting is like the new tabacco– it takes years off your life! (Watch the news clip)  At your desk, try a core ball instead of a chair (I have one), or make your treadmill into a desk. Several of my friends have done this and they can easily get in a few miles a day as they make calls or check emails. I set a timer so that every 30 munutes I get up and move. I might do 10 squats, or ten push ups or simply run up my driveway, but those few minutes make my mind more alert and help me get to my 10,000 steps a day goal.

I also found I am motivated to move if I reward myself with a new fitness outfit for each 10 pounds lost! (I love Jockey Personal Wear because it feels like pajamas and buying it supports women in biz!) What ever works to get me moving, right?  (Even retail therapy!) Grab a copy of 10 Secrets to Living Smart, Savvy and Strong and some friends and do a book club on the GO! Walk and talk – play then pray!