Archive for January, 2012

No Another Dating Book

Friday, January 27th, 2012

Here’s a new book for singles, Not Just Another Dating Book, by my
mentee, Renee Johnson Fisher. Here’s my endorsement :

 I know Renee, and she cares about people! If you want to
protect your heart from a whole lot of hurt, this book is a must read. Better yet, if you want God to do an amazing work in YOU, so ALL your relationships function at their ultimate best- you will love the advice Renee leads you to discover. If you want to laugh out loud and feel better about one of your dates that might have gone wrong, Renee’s humor will help you smile again.  The best
part of This is Not a Dating Book is you will become the kind of person people love to be around.
-Pam Farrel, relationship expert, author of over 35 books including best
selling, Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, Single Men Are Like
Waffles, Single Women Are Like Spaghetti,
and 10 Best Decisions a Single
Can Make.  

And here is a short interview with Renee:


  1. Renee, you interviewed many for your dating book, what was the most interesting thing you learned from your peers?

I loved how many people were willing to spill their most embarrassing date stories. I even got permission from my publisher to include THEM ALL in the book. I think sometimes the dating scene becomes frustrating, challenging, and just plain aggravating at times and it’s
important to laugh at ourselves. Isn’t that right Pam? Didn’t you even write a
book about that??


  1. So youwere tired of “dating” books, what sets this one apart?


I spell it out in the first sentence of my book: “I don’t claim to be an expert in dating.” So many Christian dating books either assumed you were “dating” or a “virgin.” Although I had waited for my husband, I couldn’t get a date to save my life. In “Not Another Dating Book”
I explore deeper issues not just the “to date or not to date challenge” such as
purity, online dating, characteristics of a relationship, and so much more!


  1. While you were writing the dating book you were in a dating relationship—tell me how dating Marc impacted this writing?


It was the most peculiar situation. Everything my editor asked me to change in the second draft I was living with Marc—even that day. Sometimes, I’d scream out loud and even run up and down the stairs in my old apartment, but mostly I reveled in the fact that God was
showing off. I had to rewrite the entire end of my book and take out the
section where I previously wanted to say “there are no such thing as happy
endings.” Seriously. God rocked my socks off—and I don’t even wear socks.


  1. You have a fun love story—tell us why you are glad you decided to date according to
    God’s advice—was it worth the wait?


As I said in the forward, my parents forbid me to date until I was 35. But all that changed when I was 27 and still single. They started to be more interested in my love life than I was. Even though I’d tried online dating a few times, I always felt guilty. My mom would
tell me to wait on God and let Him bring my husband to me. I disbelieved that
would ever happen. Exactly one year ago, Marc walked into my living room. I was
co-leading the 20-something’s growth group through North Coast Church in Vista,
CA and we had one spot left. Marc filled it. The more I got to know him, the
more I was challenged and wanted to get to know him. I didn’t know this, but he
was drawn to me too. He had checked out my blog and waited until I moved to San
Diego to ask me out. I only stayed down there two months and quickly moved back
in with my parents so we could seriously date. The day Marc proposed was
exactly 12 years, 10 months, and 24 days to the day God promised me I’d have a
mate. I’m so glad I waited and I’m so honored to be married.


Renee’s book is a nice compliment to our books for Singles: 10 Best Decisions a Single Can Make and Single Men Are Like Waffles, Single Women
Are Like Spaghetti

If you are single, or know a single any of these are nice
gifts of encouragement (and good for small groups or book clubs too).


Uncommon Inspiration for Men

Sunday, January 1st, 2012



Last year, Bill joined our three sons (all either athletes of coaches of athletes), read Uncommon by Tony Dungy on a Skype Bible study. Though we are a far flung family living in numerous states, the Farrel men stayed closer by traversing some of the same spiritual territory together in this book study. (Reading the same devotional together, for men or for women, is a great tradition for any family or friendship circle if you want deeper, richer, more connected relationships).

Every male needs some quality role models to look up to, and for the Farrel men, Superbowl winning, God-honoring, Tony Dungy is one for sure! So when I went looking for a daily devotional to give to our football coaching son, Tony came to mind.

His new yearly devotional, The One Year Uncommon Life Daily Challenge, is a perfect gift for the man in your life too. The One Year Uncommon Life Daily Challenge contains 365 reflections from the #1 New York Times bestselling author on living an “uncommon life” of integrity, honoring your family and friends, creating a life of real significance and impact, and walking with the Lord. This year, step up to the challenge—and dare to be uncommon every day. ( Like me, you can order from Tyndale House Publishers for the men in your world too. Tyndale is also the publisher of the daily devotionals in a one year format that Bill and I penned: Devotions for Men on the Go! and Devotions for Women on the Go!)

I think The One Year Uncommon Life Daily Challenge is a bargain at around $15. Just think of the outcome! I think the men in my family have uncommon wisdom, valor, strength, integrity, and commitment—and those kind of men tend to team together to help each other succeed- let Tony team with your men and cheer them on to greater heights too! (We would love to team with you too . . .so let us know how to pray for you and your family by emailing us through Or brag on your men and how he/they are “uncommon” on our facebook page. )

Happy New Year!

PS: Like Tony, we also are supporters of Fellowship of Christian Athletes. If you have a son (or daughter), please consider sending your teen to a FCA summer camp. All our sons went as high school athletes and several help now as coaches with these awesome programs.

(Pictured: Caleb Farrel, football – Harding University; Zach Farrel, co-ed cheer; U of L, Brock Farrel, QB, Liberty Universty)