Archive for May, 2011

If Arnold and Maria were our Friends . . .

Monday, May 30th, 2011


The tabloid headlines are riddled with the news of  the former Governor of California’s infidelity.  Seems he had an affair with a household employee and fathered a child who is just weeks different in age from his child with wife, Maria. While the Bible does allow for divorce in instances of adultery (Matt 5:32),  the book of Hosea, and the prophet’s redeeming love toward wayward wife, Gomer, shows that adultery does not have to lead to divorce.

Here are two resources to have on your shelf so  if someone walks into your office in marital crisis due to infidelity, you will have something available to help or refer to him/her.

When a Mate Wants Out: This is written by our mentors in ministry, Jim and Sally Conway. We keep numerous copies of this on the shelf as it is the best book to give a person the first day, or your first conversation after a spouse has uttered words like:

  • I want out
  • There is another person
  • I never loved you
  • I want a divorce

The Conways walk the betrayed person, the wounded one, through active, practical steps to give a marriage the best opportunity for survival.   

Love, Honor and Forgive: This is our most serious book for couples in crisis. It walks a person (or the couple) through the Six Steps of Forgiveness then gives more tools for reconciling. It also shows how to set boundaries, in order to give God time to work on a wayward spouse yet protect the innocent. Love, Honor and Forgive is great for couples, but it is good even if only one person is hopeful, this book will equip him or her in a way that still makes an impact on the relationship.

In coming weeks I will offer more marital helps for couples in crisis.


A Heart for Moms

Wednesday, May 4th, 2011


Years ago, Jill Savage, became a mom. A school teacher by vocation, she missed the ongoing education conferences popular among those in education. She wondered, “Why isn’t there a Mommy University?” So she and some friends pulled together a conference for mothers and Hearts at Home was born.  Hearts at Home is a multifaceted ministry to moms: an outreach bringing moms to Christ, an equipping powerhouse with books and blogs and conferences that draw well over 12,000+ mothers each year to one of their several conferences across the United States. (I have spoken at many of their conferences —check out this video of me speaking at one). The Hearts at Home conferences are the most well run, amazing events I have ever seen! They offer a plethora of workshops on everything a mother might need from cradle through college!

  I have had the pleasure of co-authoring a book with founder Jill Savage (Got Teens?) and she is one of the most amazing leaders I know—and one of the most incredible and authentic moms. She is a wealth of wisdom, penning numerous books, including a few with her husband, Marc on marriage. If you are mother, check at Hearts at Home, come to an event, watch Jill on  Focus on the Family’s webcast, Your Family Live, and sign up for Jill’s blog. If you are a leader of women, consider launching a moms group at your church (Hearts at Home has a training manual on starting a moms group) and definitely plan on bringing a group of moms to the next Hearts at Home event!